A GNA Feature
Accra, March 22, GNA - Broken heart, seen as a physical pain in the heart or chest area, is due to the emotional stress caused by a traumatic breakup or the death of a loved one.
It often leads to an individual committing suicide or causing harm to the partner.
A survey conducted by the Ghana News Agency (GNA) had some Ghanaian youth sharing diverse experiences on the issue of break-ups in relationships in the face of recent suicides death in the country, which has been connected to broken friendship.
In an interview with GNA, Dr Emmanuel Sampong, Senior Lecturer at the School of Public Health, University of Ghana, said what caused individuals to commit suicide could not be limited to broken relationship because according to him, there are various situations that contribute to a person’s desire to commit suicide.
Meanwhile in an interaction with a cross-section of the youth, Princess Owusu, 21 said she came out of a relationship she was no longer interested in because her boyfriend did not seem to be giving her what she wanted.
Asked what she had wanted from her supposed lover, she said he was not romantic enough in the sense that he did not give her enough attention as she needed from him.
According to her, she never thought of committing suicide after the breakup of her six-month-old relationship.
“I have never thought of it that when a guy breaks up with me, I will commit suicide and don’t think it will ever happen,” she said.
Ms Owusu advised colleagues that as young people, there was no need to put trust in whom you love because no one knew what lied ahead and that when there was such a breakup, there were many boys around and one just had to pray you get a responsible one.
“Time heals everything,” she said adding that young ladies who found themselves in such situations of breakup, the best thing was to try and definitely they would overcome one day.
According to Ms Fafa Dzikunu, she broke up with her first boyfriend on mutual understanding.
She said all was well with the relationship until her boyfriend joined a certain religious group whose principles she could not accept.
“He asked me to join his faith but I refused because I had issues with their beliefs.
He suggested we break up and we both moved on afterwards,” she added.
Ms Dzikunu said it was depressing for her initially because it was her first time in relationship but she overcame it all.
“I did not think of suicide because I have a lot ahead of me. My family needs me and I have wonderful friends and love ones who care for me. So why should I think of killing myself?” she asked.
In a catch up with Mr Ruben Odartey Mensah, 29, he shared his experience of a heartbreak due to his girlfriend’s unfaithfulness.
“I broke up with her because she was living with another man and I was hurt but this did not trigger me to commit suicide,” he said.
“Despite the hurt, I was glad I did not marry her because I believe it would have been a different ball game altogether.”
Mr Mensah urged his colleague youth not to start a relationship “until you are ready to marry and moreover ladies like comfort and if you cannot provide it, then see the relationship as just for fun”.
Ms Mispah Adwoa, 23, a National Service Person said, her boyfriend cheated on her because she refused to have sexual intercourse with him and that led to the breakup of their relationship.
“I dated this guy for five years and even planned of getting married in six months time, so we were in our preparation stage.”
She added that, because of the emotional illness she went through, she decided to commit suicide but her mother prevented her.
“The youth should not rush into any relationship because a man is not a pillow to lay our head on,” Mispah noted.
“My relationship breakage was my girlfriend’s decision and I was so hurt that I wanted to kill myself, even wanted to take in ‘weed’ at that moment but at the long run I was able to overcome it and moved on with life,” Kafui Etu-Mantey, 27, said.
He urged the youth not to put their entire self in a relationship, and should love wisely.
“After all people get married and divorce but they are able to bear the pain and still survive. We have a lot to do in this world, we have a role to play to make the world a better place and suicide goes a long way to affect the people around you.
“Just live wisely and these issues will be handled with ease,” he added.
Mr Mawuko Avenue, 33, also narrated how he was admitted in the hospital for a cardiovascular illness because a woman disappointed him.
He said his girlfriend for more than six years decided to break their relationship giving the reason that she was no more interested.
Mr Avenue said that when they met, she was a petty trader and encouraged her to get a diploma in Accounting, and he paid the fees and later secured her a job in the banking sector.
He said he later found out that she was dating another man in her office and “after all I did for her and helping her through school, this is how she pays me”.
“My parents and even my doctor said she may not be the right person for me and advised I move on with my life and that I will find my missing rib,” he said.
According to Dr Sampong, the youth could deal with issues of heartbreak when they avoid putting all their emotions into relationships. As such, they could deal with the trauma more easily.
He urged people to be observant of the behavioral pattern and speech of their loved ones as some of them may give clues of depression in their communication.
“If you hear somebody say ‘I’m fed up with life, I am tired of life, and life is not worth living’. It may be a clue that they are depressed and we need to listen and respond accordingly, he said.GNA